As I sit here and watch re-runs of one of my favorite tv shows, The Game, I come across a real topic that most of us don’t really talk about and that’s female players (women who date different men and play the game like a man does). First off, I think any woman who plan on being in a successful relationship must possess male characteristics but we can’t take it too far. Women who are more aggressive in relationships, meaning in terms of giving a man their space or not getting emotional over every little thing, win. I am all down for single females going on dates with different men; that is how you learn the game but you can’t be a player if sex is involved.
A real female player doesn’t have sex with every suitor she dates. She picks and chooses wisely who she becomes intimate with. As I watch the show, I see that Tia Mowry’s character, Melanie, got herself in a real mess because she had sex with one of her suitors on the same day that she was supposed to be having game night with Derwin (played by Pooch Hall), an ex who she has serious sexual chemistry with. The problem is she’s trying to get out of her date with Derwin but he’s getting incredibly upset so she keeps her date.
SMH! Since she had sex with someone else, she shouldn’t go over there because a real lady doesn’t have sex with two people on the same day. Activities as such gives too much mileage on the catbag and no one wants to buy a car for with too much mileage. That “I got my period” thing doesn’t work with an ex who hit it more times than you remember. Some men will try to feel down there and touch it or some men might be a little frisky and try to hit it while you have your period (something I strongly advise women not to do). Men can have sex with 2, 3, 4, or 5 women a day and can wipe off their tool like nothing….
In Melanie sense, she tries to convince Derwin to do it in the shower once Derwin tries to give her sexual advances. He agrees but she end of feeling funny and she says she can’t do it but doesn’t tell him why. He understands that he’s pressuring her and stops his advances and she goes home nearly in tears and happy she didn’t have to result to telling him that her catbag was just touched down by another man. So in conclusion, the body parts of a woman mixed in with pure emotions associated with sex stops a woman from being a player. Some people think they can do it but being a player for a lady never lasts. So just remember, the catbag controls the overall fundamentals of being a player. However, if you’re not sexing any of the men, you are the player because in the end as I always say, NO PANTIES-NO POINT!
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As I get older, I appreciate a participating in conversations with older, well to do women. I think they bring on another perspective, a wisdom that some of the ladies my age is clearly missing. Well a certain situation came up in our little conversation that I just had to address. Taking on a man’s name who you are not married to…Tisk, tisk, tisk. Theres one thing I really hate in this world and that’s a dumb chick. There is this teacher/consultant/real estate agent who live in Atlanta who started to have an affair with an ex-athlete. The wife at the time decided to be strong and leave the man because of his infidelity.
Clearly, the man started to turn his mistress into his leading lady (some fellas never learn, you can’t turn a ho’ into a housewife but you know how that story always go). Anywho, the mistress was so jealous of the ex-wife that she decided to change her name by adding on his last name. Now remind you, they are not married at all. They do have a child (and don’t try to tell me maybe she want them all to have the same last name because that is some crock of bull if I ever heard of it), they live together, yet he hasn’t married her although he is now divorced.
What’s the problem with this? The problem is he isn’t your husband. You done went and took on a man’s name who doesn’t belong to you. Ladies, we have to stop pushing things that are not meant to be. My father always taught me that if a man wants you to be his wife, he will make you his wife. Hyphenating your name to match his is clearly a mistake and a dumb one at that. The sad thing about this educated woman is that she really believes she is married to this man. She walks around Atlanta telling people they are married yet when you check the Atlanta records of legal marriages, their union is nowhere to be found. The only thing that is found is her certificate of name change. This is sad! Have some self-esteem ladies because this is just sick and obsessive. I think the first step on finding a good man is having self-realization; being able to tell the difference between what’s real and what’s not. Hyphenating your name when you are not married is a sick attempt to look like you belong to someone. You have to belong to yourself and keep your identity (because changing your name is like changing your identity). I love my man Cas, but I won’t become a Francis until he makes me one.
Ladies, it’s about to be 2010 and we must not fall for the okie doke and do this to ourselves. Stop falsifying facts in your head! t’s only going to lead to a unhappy place in your mind. The sad thing is, this woman has a daughter. UM, UM, UM, I am really shaking my head. What are your thoughts? Would you take on a man’s name who you wasn’t married to? Talk About It!
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My name is Tionna Smalls and I am known to many people in the world as the love advisor. I had an advice column at the very popular site, Gawker.com. As most of you know, my column was cancelled once the owner Nick Denton took over the site as the Editor. That was almost 2 years ago, now I am older and wiser and here to help you guys figure out whatever it is you need to figure out about love. Currently, I am filming a reality show on VH1 with Chilli from TLC. I am her “sidekick of love” and I am helping her find the love of her life. This task isn’t easy but I am working hard to get her what she wants. I love to speak about love and the existence of it in every day relationships, not only physical. I will answer your questions and give you real advice. I will update this new blog as often as I could but seriously, this site is for those who are trying to figure out their love lives and discuss it in a judgemental-free environment. All letters about advice will be left confidential and if you like to send your stories about your love life, whether it’s a love failure or a love success story, please do! Once again, welcome to the love advisor’s blog. The new blog which focuses on the really real of the heart.
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