Taking on a Man’s Name Who You Are Not Married To! Oh HELLS No!
As I get older, I appreciate a participating in conversations with older, well to do women. I think they bring on another perspective, a wisdom that some of the ladies my age is clearly missing. Well a certain situation came up in our little conversation that I just had to address. Taking on a man’s name who you are not married to…Tisk, tisk, tisk. Theres one thing I really hate in this world and that’s a dumb chick. There is this teacher/consultant/real estate agent who live in Atlanta who started to have an affair with an ex-athlete. The wife at the time decided to be strong and leave the man because of his infidelity.
Clearly, the man started to turn his mistress into his leading lady (some fellas never learn, you can’t turn a ho’ into a housewife but you know how that story always go). Anywho, the mistress was so jealous of the ex-wife that she decided to change her name by adding on his last name. Now remind you, they are not married at all. They do have a child (and don’t try to tell me maybe she want them all to have the same last name because that is some crock of bull if I ever heard of it), they live together, yet he hasn’t married her although he is now divorced.
What’s the problem with this? The problem is he isn’t your husband. You done went and took on a man’s name who doesn’t belong to you. Ladies, we have to stop pushing things that are not meant to be. My father always taught me that if a man wants you to be his wife, he will make you his wife. Hyphenating your name to match his is clearly a mistake and a dumb one at that. The sad thing about this educated woman is that she really believes she is married to this man. She walks around Atlanta telling people they are married yet when you check the Atlanta records of legal marriages, their union is nowhere to be found. The only thing that is found is her certificate of name change. This is sad! Have some self-esteem ladies because this is just sick and obsessive. I think the first step on finding a good man is having self-realization; being able to tell the difference between what’s real and what’s not. Hyphenating your name when you are not married is a sick attempt to look like you belong to someone. You have to belong to yourself and keep your identity (because changing your name is like changing your identity). I love my man Cas, but I won’t become a Francis until he makes me one.
Ladies, it’s about to be 2010 and we must not fall for the okie doke and do this to ourselves. Stop falsifying facts in your head! t’s only going to lead to a unhappy place in your mind. The sad thing is, this woman has a daughter. UM, UM, UM, I am really shaking my head. What are your thoughts? Would you take on a man’s name who you wasn’t married to? Talk About It!
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This is one of the most dumbest things I ever heard in my life… Hell № I wouldn’t take № man’s last name if he didn’t put a ring on it!! The shit women do is unbelievable, all I could do is smfh!!!
This kind of DESPERATION makes it bad for all woman. What is his incentive to marry her at this point? What example are they setting for their child? Oh I forgot, the relationship started out FOUL and they weren’t thinking about anyone else but themselves. So I guess this behavior will be acceptable when their child grows up and does the same thing. Ummmm???? This is one of the reasons our society is going downhill fast. NO MORALS! NO VALUES! No one is holding the other accountable! The sad thing is that this is a person is an educator. WOW! I wonder what her Friends & Family have to say about this whole thing? Did anyone ask to see the wedding pictures? Marriage certificate? Is anyone asking questions? or has society become so desensitized that it they don’t care?
PEOPLE-The kids are watching! They learn MORE by what we do than what we say. NO decision that you make just affect you. Think before you act. It makes my blood BOIL!
FYI: God is not going to send you someone else’s husband. That would go against the very institution that He established. My advice to her is REPENT & ask for FORGIVENESS.
Wow. It is unbelievable the depths to which some people will go to live their delusion. I am a firm believer that women like the one you are describing are no doubt trying to find self and they just want to belong to something or someone. For whatever reason, this one attached herself to SOMEONE’S husband and is CLAIMING him as her own. Sadly, she allowed herself to become pregnant, which further exacerbates the situation. Now they have a delusional child born and living out of wedlock. Smart lady, the one that divorced him. But here’s the thing: when does Mrs. Delusionally-Hyphenated get a clue? How long ago did they divorce? And he still hasn’t married her? I don’t think that the original wife’s name was ever HYPHENATED. She carried his name as a sign UNDER GOD that she had in fact taken their vows seriously which were exchanged and celebrated in view of family and friends and was a joyous affair no doubt. This identity crisis is truly a slap in the face to ANY married woman. And no matter how it appears or sounds, the reality is that SHE IS NOT MARRIED. She is the mistress who overstayed her welcome and has become a liability for the ex-husband. But that is HIS OWN CAN OF WORMS. I wonder if he regrets the end of his marriage to a diamond to find that he has replaced her with a shiny, newer cubic zirconia? The value of the diamond continues to increase… I wonder if the cz has started to perhaps show sign of wear and tear and crack. How long can anyone live out a delusional life? Thanks for sharing!